Sweet Distractions


My brain is weary and I am sure many of you also feel my pain. It’s not easy juggling work, family, Pinterest, city traffic, calling my state senators every day and trying to keep abreast of the ever developing political updates. It has taken me roughly three weeks to find balance in it all. Knowing when to turn my concerned constituent side on and when to turn social media off isn’t a skill that has come easy. For a moment there I’d forgotten the things that bring me peace and joy, and was knee deep in news from the Atlantic and NPR. But then… I remembered a trick I learned in college. After every challenging semester. After reading Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales in its original version. After plowing through Yates and e.e. cummings and Frost. After diving deep into advanced grammar and syntax… I would sell my textbooks back to the university bookstore and use the measly proceeds to purchase junk food  and the latest People magazine. Yes you read that correctly – PEOPLE MAGAZINE. I had forgotten the joys of what I like to call BRAIN CANDY.

You, like me, may have lost your way and forgotten how mindless drivel is a part of self-care. We have to recommit ourselves to embracing just a little bit of fluff and nonsense to keep us sane. It’s time for us all to revel in the time-sucks!

This weekend, the Lou Rawls song “You’ll Never Find Another Love Like Mine” popped into my head and remained a brainworm until I went to download it from iTunes. There I discovered the song was a part of their Pop Hits: 1976 playlist. Curious about what else I might find there I clicked on it and saw it included:

More Than a Feeling – Boston
Dancing Queen – ABBA
Don’t Leave Me This Way – Georgia Benson & Thelma Houston
Don’t Go Breaking My Heart – Elton John & Kiki Dee
Magic Man – Heart
Dream Weaver – Gary Wright
50 Ways to Leave Your Lover – Paul Simon
She’s Gone – Hall & Oats
Rubberband Man – The Spinners
Turn the Beat Around – Vicki Sue Robinson
Love Rollercoaster – The Ohio Players
Fly Like and Eagle – Steve Miller Band
The Boys Are Back in Town – Thin Lizzy
and the theme From Mahogany by Diana Ross

Needless to say I lost my mind and have been jamming off of these bi-centennial good vibration hits ever since. In 1976 I was five years old and just beginning to build my own personal music appreciation library. I suggest you find a music playlist from a year you look back on with fondness, and discover the happiness that comes from listening to that music.

I’ve asked friends and coworkers for some of their favorite things to do when they need to turn their brains off. Below is my list of some of their most fabulous pieces of brain candy suggestions, and a few that I stumbled upon on my own.

  • Take a day (or five) to binge watch Mad Men, House of Cards, Santa Clarita Diet, Sense 8, Master of None, or any other show you’ve heard people talk on and on about but know nothing about.
  • Read this article from Goop on 6 ways to reinvent your winter look.
  • Google “bad eyebrows.”
  • Dig into Prince Harry’s girlfriend’s website The Tig.
  • Binge watch The New Edition Story then spend hours listening to all of their old hits!
  • Download Monument Valley. Play Monument Valley. Love Monument Valley.
  • Google “baby animals.”
  • Take the Myers-Briggs Personality Test. I’m an ENFJ.
  • Buy a durian and try to eat it. Let me know how that goes…
  • As it is now February, all of the New Year Resolution folks are gone from the gym. Take a spin or yoga or barre class there that you’ve always been curious about.
  • Purge the closets in your house and reorganize using the Marie Kondo method.
  • Chose any episode of the Beautiful Anonymous podcast and listen to it.
  • Try completing the New York Times crossword puzzle (in pencil of course.)
  • Go to your local animal shelter and say hello to the pups and cats.
  • Learn how to solve a Rubik’s Cube.
  • Try a new style of beer. I highly recommend Belgian-Style Saison.
  • Take a nap.

Try to relax!!


A Boy and His Flag 

This is our flag. It’s pretty awesome.

After studying American symbols and landmarks in his Kindergarten class, my son came to me and asked for a flag. An American flag. He thought it was the prettiest flag of them all and wanted to hang it up in his room.  Many of you are probably shrugging your shoulders and thinking, “And? What’s the big deal?”

The deal is:

  • We are African American.
  • We are very well educated in our American history (even the shitty Jim Crow/Japanese internment camp parts.)
  • When he asked for the flag we were fresh off of the 2016 elections where an asstool was elected in to the highest office in the land; and the bigots, kluxers, and white power zealots were dancing in the streets.
  • America was nestled firmly on my shitlist at the time.

With all this being taken into consideration…surprisingly… I did not immediately say no to my child. All of these things ran through my head. All of the anger that was inside of me started bouncing around like a tiny rage filled rocket. I didn’t let the kid see this though. I didn’t go into a diatribe about how for the last eight years it seemed as if we as a nation had come so far and now it looked as if it was all falling backwards at a breakneck speed. He is only six. And while he is very smart and I’m sure he would understand many of the facts – at this time – I don’t think he needs to know any of them. He will learn in due time that while there are many things that make America great, there are many things that this country has done and will do that make it a downright shit show. He will learn that once upon a time people had to sit on the back of the bus based on the color of their skin. He will learn that women and minorities have not always been able to vote.  He will learn that not that long ago his best friend’s two mommies could not be married. He will learn that these bovine, inbred, backwoods ass concepts were the law of the land.

Because he will learn the bad things – I need for him to learn the good things first. He will know that his great-great-grand father and great-grandfather became doctors in this country when that was RARE. He will learn that 4th of July fireworks are awesome and so is apple pie. He will learn that spending an entire Saturday in your pajamas is considered a successful day in our house. He will know that there are many races and religions represented in this country and they make fabulous friends and neighbors. He will know that all of those things, when you boil it down, mean happiness and freedom and that is what that flag stands for.  And I mean happiness and freedom for ALL just in case you were wondering.

That is what the flag, that he so eagerly asked me for, stands for. So when he asked me for the flag I looked at his little round face and asked, “A little flag or a big flag?” Of course he wanted big –  so big is what I bought. Since it arrived, he has learned how to properly display the flag, fold the flag, and the ceremony for destroying a flag when it is past its prime.  My brother who is a retired U.S. Air Force vet has offered to make the trip with us to the local American Legion where they will do it for us.

When the time comes he will learn why people will sometimes  fly the flag upside down. Or why some people will burn it and how it is their right to do so if they choose. As his parents we have those conversations now. Those are some heavy discussions; and we think they will be made a wee bit lighter with the knowledge of what good  can be found in those stars and stripes. Call me a tree hugging optimist but I know this country has more than a few things going for it. They are why we live here. They are why we gave birth to him here. They are what we work hard for and champion every day.  They are why this flag flies outside of our front door.

Waving our flag proudly,

The Pinkeltons


Gifting the Hubby

Yesterday was my husband’s 47th birthday and I think once again we knocked it out of the park when it came to the presents. He has several hobbies and interests but I always fear I will give him something that will end up collecting dust. Thank the heavens that did not happen with these gifts…

From our son came this Star Wars sunshade to keep his new RAV4 cool during the sweltering Georgia summers. We knew it was a winner when he immediately took photos of it and sent them to his friends. It is perfect for any fan of the series, only $20,  and is available at ThinkGeek.com



From me, the gift of something to sip. Last year I gave him a bottle of Basil Hayden Bourbon so in keeping with the cocktail theme I presented him this bottle of Thirteenth Colony Southern Bourbon. We like to drink local and this rye is made in Americus, Georgia.  It was promptly opened, poured, and loved. Prices vary. Check there website to find stores near you that carry their products.


What gifts are you giving this holiday season????

Give the Gift of Calories – Edible Gifts by Mail


Food is a wonderful the gift for the person who has everything. The best part is there are many companies that will put their edibles in the mail, so no matter where your friends and family live, you can contribute to their holiday weight gain. Every Christmas my Aunt Genevieve would send us a massive box from Harry and David with fresh pears and apples alongside a dried fruit and nut spread. It is still one of my fondest memories of the season and the catalyst for this blog post.

The list below is of many of my favorite places that I have had the opportunity to visit in my travels. It is not an exhaustive list but a good one nonetheless if you are struggling to find a special gift for that special someone.

Harry and David  – Of course they lead the list. I highly recommend the Rivera Pears, and the Christmas Pear Decorating Kit is pretty adorable for the kids.

Beecher’s – A well traveled (and fed) pilot once told me that if I was ever in Seattle I had to have Beecher’s mac and cheese. I can never thank her enough for telling me about this spot. If you have a mac and cheese lover on your list send them a tray, but be sure to order yourself one too. You don’t want to deny yourself the experience.

Annette & Sumpter Pâtissière  – I was proud to serve as a guinea pig for some of Annete & Sumpter’s founder Brandy Bart’s early creations. She officially popped my Kouign Amann (the yummies in the photo you drooled over) cherry and I have yet to find one as delectable as that one since.

Todd’s Dirt – I first tasted Todd’s Dirt at a Beer, Bourbon and BBQ festival. I use their Low Down Dirt in just about all of my savory dishes and it contains NO SALT! Try the Bayou and Crabby Dirt too.

Barnie’s Coffee & Tea – All I’m going to say is Santa’s White Christmas medium roast coffee. You can buy beans or single serve pods. Go do it now!

Omaha Steaks – One Christmas we had ribs and crab cakes for dinner from these guys because we were so over turkey. Fill your own holiday table or make a gift out of their selection of food, wine, and kitchen prep goods.

Dean & Deluca – Everything from candy to charcuterie can be ordered from this mail order food legend. The cigare rolled butter cookies are to die for!

The Loveless Cafe – These people will send you bacon samplers, biscuit mix, and blackberry preserves in the mail. Have your loved one ring in the new year with diabetes and high blood pressure. And I really hope I am one of your loved ones.

Insomnia Cookies – Buy these late night treats anytime from their website. They even have vegan and gluten free options.

Happy holidays and happy eating to you all…